After working with dozens and dozens of shy guys, I could normally tell if they’re going to succeed or fail based on how they think.
The guys who struggle are the ones who resist change and are too stubborn. They like for things to stay the way they are even if it’s not what they really want.
The guys who do well are the ones who are up for a new challenge. They get excited when they’re figuring out something they’ve never done before.
According to Mindset by Carol Dweck, there are 2 types of mindset that all people have:
- Growth mindset
- Fixed mindset
People have both mindsets to a certain degree. One is just more prevalent than the other.
Here’s the good news: now that you’re aware of the 2 basic mindsets, you can change the way you think whenever you want.
Here are the 2 basic mindsets that will change your social life.
Studies have shown that people with growth mindsets tend to be more accurate at assessing their abilities, no matter how unflattering.
They value learning and view life’s setbacks as something necessary for long-term success. They focus on just getting a little bit better everyday because they know overtime, it adds up.
Strong character develops out of this mindset. If you believe anything can be learned, then you will value effort over compliments.
Despite how painful failures may be, you know it doesn’t define who they are.
When things get tough, having a growth mindset will help you push back and work harder. Unwanted results don’t brand you permanently.
Recognize that you are a developing person. In every circumstance, try to learn something useful about yourself in order to have a better experience next time you encounter a similar struggle.
People with this kind of mindset limit their growth severely. They believe that their qualities can’t be changed and there’s not much they can do about it.
If your self-perception is largely determined by how others view you, then you will do your best to preserve that. You feel like you have to prove yourself over and over again.
Because of this, you’ll rely heavily on being praised and avoid challenges. Any sign of failure is a detrimental to your identity.
Instead of learning and growing, you’re more worried about being judged. When things get challenging, you’re quick to give up. Trying means you’re not meant to do it.
You’re easily discouraged and quit eventually when you don’t get something right away.
It’s Up To You
If you want something you’ve never had, you need to be willing to try something you’ve never done. Adopt a growth mindset and you’ll get to your goals inevitably.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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