He’s got this irresistible personality and magnetic aura.
Women want to be around him. Other men aspire to be like him.
He has specific traits and certain charisma that attract people he interacts with.
As a former shy guy, I often wondered…”How do I become that guy?”
I did A LOT of research into it and I want to share with you what I discovered.
What Is An Alpha Male?
Before I answer that question, let’s talk about what an alpha male isn’t.
- It’s not the guy at the bar every weekend buying drinks showing everyone how much money he can spend on alcohol.
- It’s not the wanna-be “pick-up artist” whose only mission in life is to sleep with anyone that resembles a woman.
- It’s not the muscle-head at the gym that only cares about how much he can bench and how his six pack looks in the mirror.
No! An alpha male isn’t any of those.
Nowadays, it’s really difficult to know what a “man” really is.
We’re bombarded by marketing messages from the media telling us what to wear, how we should look and even what kind of relationships to be in.
There’s so much external noise that we eventually forget to listen to what really matters: your opinion of yourself.
Being a man is not just a gender description that helps you pick which bathroom to go to. Being a man is acting within integrity. It’s when your thoughts, emotions and actions all line up.
When you’re in complete alignment, there’s no internal resistance.
Here are 4 alpha male traits every shy guy must have:
Get Clear On Your Goals
The reason why most people don’t get what they want is because they don’t even know what it is to begin with.
You’ll get exactly what you focus on. That’s why it’s so important to set very clear goals.
If you’re not sure what it is, here’s what I suggest:
Take a bit of time in the morning to be quiet and ask yourself, “What do I really want?”
We’re so used to being told what to do that we’ve neglected our own wants and needs. Ask yourself that question everyday until you get an answer.
You owe it to yourself. Be willing to put in the work that other people won’t so that you can live your life the way most people can’t.
Honour Your Priorities
At any given day, there’s an infinite amount of things you can do with your time. Having clearly defined goals act like a filter.
It’s easier to make decisions when you know what’s important to you.
Once you know what that is, dedicate the first hour of your day to do something that will lead you closer to it.
Your ability to pick your most important task and act on it quickly will have a significant impact on your success.
Do Work That Matters
One of the greatest gifts that life has to offer is the chance to find something that’s important to you and to do it as often as possible.
Your passion lives outside of your “supposed-to’s.”
If you’re not happy with your current situation, you have the choice and capability to change it. You can’t blame other people for your outcome.
At the end of the day, just realize that the only person you are responsible for is yourself.
Take Massive Action
While I’m a huge advocate of self-education, most people get caught up in consuming too much information. Because they don’t know where to start, they end up not doing anything.
To prevent this from happening to you, get in the habit of only consuming enough information that’s relevant to what you need to do.
Don’t wait for all the lights to turn green. Take your journey one red light at a time.
Whatever you’re trying to do, you’ll learn twice as much from doing it than just reading about it.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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