Throughout my journey to improve my social confidence, I’ve had the chance to meet a lot of very charismatic people.
After spending some time with them, I’ve noticed most of them share the same types of beliefs.
The way you think determines the outcome you get. If you want to create a permanent change in any area of your life, you need to change your mindset first.
Here are the 5 beliefs that socially confident people have.
Belief #1 – They Expect Things To Go Well
Socially confident people assume success in all their interactions.
Instead of wondering, “Will they like me?” they’re thinking “I wonder if I will like them?”
They are more invested in what they think of themselves rather than what other people think of them.
Shy guys have the opposite belief. They are already anticipating rejection before approaching people they want to meet.
Because of this belief, they start acting in ways that make it a reality.
Belief #2 – They Talk To Themselves Positively
Your inner dialogue has a huge impact on your self-image.
Socially confident people talk to themselves in a very kind and compassionate way.
They never base how they feel on external circumstances. No matter what, they always celebrate their wins and learn from their mistakes.
Shy guys, on the other hand, talk to themselves in a very nasty way.
“You’re such an idiot.”
“You messed it up again.”
“Why do you always make a fool out of yourself.”
If you talk to other people the way you talk to yourself right now, would you still have friends?
Be mindful of your inner dialogue and talk to yourself positively.
Belief #3 – They Are Polarizing
Let’s face it, you’re not going to get along with everyone you meet. That’s why they polarize people they meet very quickly.
By being their most honest and authentic self, they find out very quickly if they’re going to get along with someone they just met or not.
For shy guys, it’s a completely different experience. Not being liked by someone is a blow to their ego. They want to be accepted by everybody which causes them to become people pleasers.
Belief #4 – They Believe What They Have To Say Matters
One of the biggest reasons why shy people keep to themselves is because they don’t think what they have to say matters.
Socially confident people have the opposite belief. Because they value themselves, they are not afraid to say what’s on their minds.
As mentioned earlier, you need to view rejection as a good thing if you want to improve your social confidence.
Belief #5 – They Are Focused On What’s Working
The ability to forget mistakes quickly is a trait that most socially confident people have.
They don’t dwell on the past and they don’t beat themselves up. If they fall down, they’re quick to get back on their feet.
The reason why most shy guys are hesitant to put themselves out there is because they’re focused on the few times they made a fool out of themselves.
If you really take a moment and reflect, how many good interactions have you had compared to interactions that didn’t go well in the past?
You’ve probably had more people respond to you positively than not, right?
That’s why it’s so important to condition your mind to see what you want through meditation and visualization.
Get a picture for what your more social self looks like and focus on that on a regular basis.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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