Where do you learn how to date anyway?
For me, my only reference point on how to meet women was based on romantic comedy movies.
Guy likes girl. Girl doesn’t notice guy right away.
Guy does something insanely romantic. Girl falls in love with guy.
That made sense to me so I figured I’d try it out.
Not knowing any better, I followed that same story line blindly except mine didn’t end happily ever after.
I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong.
I bought women flowers and chocolates. I said “yes” to everything they wanted.
I thought I was “boyfriend material” but I didn’t get treated like one.
“I think you’re a great guy but we should just be friend.” That’s a statement that I heard from women over and over again.
If you’re anything like how I was before, I want you to pay attention.
I’m going to share with you some valuable lessons on how to avoid the dreaded friend zone.
Get Your Shit Together
Back then, I didn’t have my life figured out.
That’s why my sense of fulfillment came from women. Getting a girlfriend became my be-all and end-all.
I put women on a pedestal and worshipped them like goddesses with religious offerings of flowers and chocolates.
Because I didn’t have much going on for me, I didn’t value myself. And that’s why women didn’t value me as well.
If this is you right now, remember this: only you can give your life meaning.
There’s no women out there who can make you happy if you’re not happy on your own.
Draw Your Line
You’re not required by the law to agree to everything women want. If you don’t want to do something, say something.
Lack of boundaries invite disrespect. You have to be clear on what you will and will not tolerate.
A good exercise to do is to make a list of the things that you want and don’t want in a relationship.
Constantly remind yourself of what’s important to you and never let any woman cross your boundaries. Grow some balls and stand up for yourself.
Be That Guy
Seriously ask yourself: “Why should women want to be with you?”
I know that sounds harsh. But if you’re honest about yourself and willing to make changes, the answer to that question could change your dating life.
Become the type of guy that women enjoy being with. The more things you have going for you, the more attractive you become.
It’s a bit counterintuitive, but if you want women, you have to stop chasing them. Instead, put your focus on yourself and your life.
Take It Slow
Before you do another over the top favours to win women’s affection, take a step back and keep your credit card in your wallet.
Women value something they had to work for. So if they haven’t done anything to earn your affection, why are you so willing to give it?
Take it easy, especially in the very beginning.
Allow the relationship to take it’s natural course and whatever happens, happens.
Just Drop It
The biggest waste of your time is to convince a woman to like you when she doesn’t.
Why be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?
Remember, dating is a process of elimination, not manipulation. There’s someone out there who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with her.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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