You become the average of the people you surround yourself with.
And there’s no way around it.
Who you keep close says a lot about who you are.
The way you see yourself is exactly how you see others. You’ll seek out relationships that fit your beliefs.
I wish I knew this when I was in my early twenties. My life today would’ve been completely different.
Back then, I was broke, insecure and unsuccessful. Knowing what I know now, it was not a coincidence.
The people that I was around with mostly were living paycheque-to-paycheque. All they wanted to do was go out, get drunk and chase after girls.
It took me long enough to realize how pointless that was. That’s when I decided to trade my old friends for new ones.
You have to be mindful of who you’re around all the time. Their beliefs and habits will eventually rub off on you.
You’re a lot more likely to accomplish your goals if you’re with people who have what you want. Your social circle is your source of inspiration and motivation.
Here are my best tips if you want to learn how to build a world-class social circle.
Join A Meetup Group
A Meetup group is an incredible resource that’s under-utilized by most people.
You can find a group of people interested in a particular subject for almost every topic you can think of.
Once you’re there, starting a conversation with anyone you want to meet is easy.
My favourite thing to ask is “What brought you out tonight?” Then all you have to do is to be genuinely curious and be relatable.
Organize Your Own Events
One of the best ways to meet like-minded people is always through your current network.
If you get along with your friends, chances are you’ll also like other people they introduce you to.
I encourage you to accept all valid invitation from your social circle.
Another thing you can do is to organize your own events. At any party, the host always has the highest social value.
Invite your closest friends and get them to bring new people too.
The best way to get to know someone is by seeing how they conduct themselves around other people.
A bit of creativity goes a long way. You can organize barbecues at a park, a hike on a nice day or a dinner party at a restaurant.
Learn A New Skill
If you want to become an interesting person, you need to do interesting things.
Ask yourself what’s a skill or hobby something you’ve always wanted to learn?
Whether it’s learning Spanish, playing the guitar or dabbling with photography, go ahead and give it a shot.
Not only will you become a more well-rounded person, you’ll also have a more diverse group of friends.
Attend Relevant Conferences
It’s sad that most people will not even think twice when buying new clothes or the latest iPhone. But they feel hesitant when it comes to investing in personal development.
In every aspect of your life, you are the common denominator. How you do one thing is how you do everything.
That’s why YOU are your best asset.
If you’re the type of guy who’s also looking for other growth-minded people, you’ll definitely find them at conferences and seminars.
Whether it’s a professional or personal development event, you’re guaranteed to walk away with not just a new idea but also a great connection.
Leverage Social Media
Social media is such an integral part now of how we connect with people. I know for myself, I would never leave my house without my smartphone.
This is an extension of attending a meet up group. Find groups on Facebook and Linkedin and join the conversation.
Leverage the power of social media to find like-minded people quicker. Exchange contact information and meet each other offline.
We are drawn to those who are similar to us. Your social circle is a reflection of your current level of self-esteem.
The greatest life hack ever is to surround yourself with individuals who you aspire to become.
Overtime, you’ll adopt their beliefs and habits that made them the way they are.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
If you would like me to help you succeed socially, click here and let’s connect.