Have you ever met someone you really liked and you couldn’t explain specifically why?
I know I have and I’ve always envied those people. I secretly wished I could be just like them.
For the longest time, I used to think that charisma was something you were either born with or not.
As a former shy guy, I thought I was a hopeless case doomed to a life of loneliness and mediocrity.
But the more I looked into my situation, I realized something.
Charisma is a learned skill.
It’s something you create and emanate; not something that happens accidentally.
All it takes is awareness and discipline.
According to Olivia Fox Cabane, author of the Charisma Myth, charismatic behaviour has 3 parts: presence, power and warmth.
After learning this, I immediately put them into practice right away. The results were INCREDIBLE!
Simple tweaks in my mindset, body language and vocal tonality really made a huge difference in how people were responding to me.
Since then, I feel more confident in myself, connected with some amazing women and built a world-class network.
If you’re wanting to learn how to develop your charisma and become more likeable, here’s how to get started:
Presence is the most important aspect of charisma. When you’re truly engaged with the person you’re with, it makes them feel understood.
Train yourself to give your full, undivided attention when you’re interacting with someone. Listen, respond and ask good questions.
Make the other person feel like they’re the only one that matters to you at that moment.
Becoming charismatic isn’t about you, it’s about how people feel after they leave an interaction with you.
First Impression Matters
When you meet someone for the first time, you immediately assess if they’re a friend or foe.
Instinctually, that’s how you’re wired for survival. You make snap judgements about other people based on their style, their body language and their social status.
Once you’ve made up your mind, you behave accordingly.
First impressions matter and charismatic people know this very well.
People will accept whatever you project that’s why you really need to pay attention how you’re coming across.
Display Your Warmth
Being kind and showing respect to the people around you goes a long way.
Becoming charismatic means that you have a high degree of social intelligence. You genuinely care about other people’s well-being.
Keep in mind that people don’t remember what you do for them. They remember how you made them feel.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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