Going through a break up sucks.
There’s really no other way to put it.
You can’t focus on anything and you just want the pain to go away.
I know how it feels. I go through so much mixed emotions every single time a relationship ends.
But that shouldn’t prevent you from loving again.
Remember a bruised heart is better than a boxed heart.
If you’re wondering how to put yourself out there again after a break up, here are my best tips:
Make Yourself Happy
Feeling lonely after a break up is absolutely normal.
A big part of your life that used to be there is now taken away. After you’ve given yourself enough time to mourn, it’s time to move on.
Hold off on jumping into another relationship at this point. You’re still emotionally vulnerable and you’ll end up dating someone for the wrong reasons.
Now that you have more free time, start doing things that you love. Do what you have to do to be happy on your own.
Learn Your Lessons
There’s a reason why you and your now ex-girlfriend didn’t work out. Take some time to really figure out why that is.
Nothing in life is an accident. Everything happens for a reason.
That being said, if you don’t learn the lessons from your last relationship, you’re doomed to repeat it on your next one.
Reset Your Goals
When you date someone, you end up spending a lot of time with that person. That’s why every relationship you go through changes you as a person.
What that means is that your goals change. Your priorities evolve the more life experience that you have.
Take a moment to get clarity on what you’re now looking for. Define your new must-have’s and non-negotiable’s.
Whatever you do, don’t compromise them. It’s better to hold out than to sell out.
Be More Strategic
Now that you know what type of person you’re looking for, where do you think they spend their time?
Dating should be fun. It should complement your life, not take over it. The best way to do that is to make it an extension of your social life.
It’s true that 80% of success is showing up but you have to show up at the right place.
When you meet someone that could be a potentially good match for you, be honest about your intentions right away.
Time is your most valuable asset because you can’t make more of it. Don’t beat around the bush.
They’ll either want the same thing as you or they’ll quickly run away. The more honest you are, the faster you’ll find someone who wants the same things as you.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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