My life used to suck.
Because I was overweight and had bad acne in back high school, I was usually the butt of all jokes.
Not to mention the lame advice I got from other people like “fake it until you make it” or “nobody can make you feel anything you don’t want to.”
That didn’t work for me.
Due to my lack of self-confidence, my social life really suffered when I was younger.
Who wanted to be around someone who didn’t feel good about himself?
This was a huge issue that I had to figure out for myself or else my life would’ve been so lonely.
Let me share with you what I learned.
What Is Confidence?
According to the dictionary:
“It is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.”
If you want to boost your confidence right away, you need to give yourself a reason to feel this way.
You can’t just fabricate it. It has to come from actually getting results at the things you want to feel confident at.
By now, I’m sure you feel good about your ability to run because you’ve had a lot of practice walking.
The same goes with meeting new people.
For example, if you want to be comfortable around attractive women, you need to be comfortable around people in general.
The more competent you are at socializing, the more confident you’ll feel about meeting new people.
So how do you get started?
Here are little-known secrets to boost your confidence right away.
Be Open To Learning
If the thought of approaching people you don’t know scares the crap out of you, you’re not alone.
I know how you feel because I’ve been there myself. And it all starts with how you think.
You need to have the willingness to learn if you want to succeed socially.
Any new skill can be developed through dedication and hard-work. Failure is part of the process and is only temporary.
If you are open to learning, it’s just a matter of time until you become socially successful.
If you’re not getting the result you want in your social life, it’s probably because there’s something you don’t know.
Where do you learn how to be confident, social and charismatic anyway? There’s a good chance you didn’t learn it at school or at home.
That’s why if you’re not as socially savvy as you would like to be, it’s not your fault. But it is your responsibility.
Take the time to learn what you have to learn and fill in the information gap.
Always Start Small
Nothing builds confidence faster than seeing success. That’s why you should consider lowering the bar and look for quick wins.
When you’re starting out, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. You start to overthink things and you end up not doing anything at all.
Break down what you need to do until it no longer feels like such a big task.
Focus on what you can do immediately and that’s it.
Manage Your Expectations
I’m willing to bet that almost everyone you know that is socially confident didn’t start off like that.
They had to learn the skill and practice it repeatedly. They went through a low point before they got good at it.
Expect yourself to go through the same thing. Everybody sucks when they’re starting out, even the pros.
Be kind to yourself and don’t beat yourself up.
Find Confident Friends
You become the average of the people you spend time with the most. That’s no secret.
Changing how you see yourself does take time but finding confident friends is something you can do right away.
Surround yourself with the kind of people who you aspire to become. Observe how they behave and begin to model yourself after them.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
If you would like me to help you succeed socially, click here and let’s connect.