I know, it’s sad.
But a lot of guys I’ve worked with fantasize what it would be like to have a romantic partner treat them in a loving way.
They would move heaven and earth for a woman they just met but would second-guess spending money on themselves.
What they don’t realize is that they can give themselves the same feelings of love, understanding, and connection.
Before I learned this, I made similar mistakes in my romantic relationships.
I put all my happiness on other people but never found it within myself. I relied on them for my own personal fulfillment that’s why when they eventually leave, it’s always such a devastating experience.
Always put yourself first. Treating yourself in a loving way allows you to get all your emotional needs met on your own.
This creates a more satisfying independent relationship with other people rather than a toxic co-dependent relationship where it feels like you can’t live without the other person.
A lot of guys, including myself, shy away from this topic because they think it’s unnecessary. After going through enough heartaches, I decided to give it a shot.
My only wish was that I practiced loving myself sooner. It was definitely one of the best things I’ve ever done.
Here are my best tips if you feel unlovable.
Change Your Dialogue
The relationship you have with yourself determines the relationship you have with others.
Whatever situation you’re in is a reflection of your current beliefs. If you have people in your life that make you feel like you’re not good enough, it’s because you do that to yourself first.
As soon as you start treating yourself in a more loving way, you’ll stop tolerating negative behaviours from people.
Treating yourself in a loving way starts with the way you talk to yourself. Speak to yourself like how you would talk to a good friend.
Spend Time With Yourself
If you want to feel lovable, you need to show yourself what love is.
Make a list of things that you wish other people would do for you. It’s is not about the amount but the consistency of attention given to caring about yourself.
Do little things every single day to show yourself that you matter.
Get a massage. Take yourself out for a nice dinner. Go for a hike.
Be willing to do something nice for yourself that you have never done before.
Treat yourself like someone you love and others will do the same way.
Re-Discover Your Passion
Passion is sexy.
There’s nothing more attractive than someone who lives their life the way they want to. Be that person.
Where do you start?
Define what your perfect day looks like and consciously align your actions to make that happen.
Transform yourself into the kind of person who attracts the type of relationships in your life naturally.
Pursue your passion, not people.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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