It’s really frustrating.
When shy guys come to me asking for help to improve their dating and social lives, they focus solely on techniques and strategies.
They want to know how to approach.
They want to know what to say.
They want to know how to get phone numbers and dates.
And I keep telling them, that’s not what they need.
Back when I used to read a lot of pick up material, I used to have the same mindset. Without realizing it, I’ve been getting advice from the wrong people.
I was under the impression that I can get any woman to like me just by saying a bunch of memorized lines and doing rehearsed routines. This gave me unrealistic expectations that I could actually never reach.
After trying it out and failing miserably over and over again, I realized something.
That’s not how things work.
For a quick moment, let’s pretend that your lines did work. Say you were able to get a girl to come home and have sex with you.
At some point, you’re going to run out of pick up techniques and strategies and you’re going to have to show your real self. The truth will always come out.
You can only fake it for so long. People are eventually going to discover who you really are.
Your lifestyle choices directly influence your social confidence in all areas of your life.
Not living in alignment with your values is needy behaviour. It conveys a lack of investment in yourself because you’re more concerned about getting validation from other people.
If you don’t have your shit together, then there’s no tactic or strategy that will help you become an attractive man not just to women, but to anybody in the long run.
Get your life taken care of. Be healthy. Surround yourself with positive people. Develop new hobbies. Find your passion and live it.
Going for what you want increases your self-worth and will make you less needy. It shows other people that you value your own opinion because you’re acting on it.
Align your actions with your values. Define what your perfect day looks like and aspire to live that every single day.
The secret to becoming a more attractive guy is to develop an attractive lifestyle.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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