It has “screwed me over” more times than I could imagine.
If it’s not something you get often, it’s easy to be consumed by it. It messes with your head and you can’t think straight.
Admittedly, I’ve done some pretty embarrassing things in the past just to get laid.
But then again, who hasn’t? Desperate times call for desperate measures.
Don’t get me wrong, I like doing the horizontal dance just as much as the next guy. But I think the pursuit of it deserves more thought and consideration.
Here are some unexpected lessons learned from having one-night stands.
Lose Your Attachment
I found it really difficult to talk to girls when I was in the mindset of “picking them up.” When I started in my journey, I read a lot of “pick up artist” material.
Rather than having fun in conversation, I was reciting scripted lines trying to seduce women. I was pretending to be someone I wasn’t just to get sex.
During those moments, my sense of self-worth was determined by whether I get women in bed or not.
That didn’t sit well with me. I decided to ditch that crap and focus more on bettering myself.
Oddly enough, that’s when my dating life took off. Passion, not pickup lines, is what women are attracted to.
Channel The Energy
According to the laws of physics, energy cannot be created nor destroyed. It can only be transferred.
You only have so much to work with on any given day.
A long night of hooking up can be both physically and emotionally draining. I don’t know about you but I can’t name one person who can think straight and be productive with very little sleep.
Harness your sexual energy and allocate it towards something meaningful. Use it to fuel your creativity to build a lifestyle that naturally attracts amazing women into it.
Focus on the bigger picture and what actually matters; the legacy you’re going to leave and how you’re going to be remembered.
Hold Out, Don’t Sell Out
In your journey to improve your social confidence, you’ll meet a lot of good women.
But what you’re looking for is a really good woman to spend the rest of your life with. This is the one area of your life where you can be really picky.
You’re looking for a life partner, not a roommate.
Define your ideal relationship and qualify every woman you meet to see if she fits what you’re looking for.
No matter how many one-night stands you have, it will never equate to the feeling of sharing yourself intimately with someone who actually gives a damn about you.
It’s not about the person you go home with on Saturday night. It’s about the person you spend time with on Sunday afternoon.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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