Everything in the world is subject to the 80/20 Principle.
That’s why it’s something I’m really passionate about.
It was discovered by Italian Economist Vilfredo Pareto in the early 1900s when he realized that 80% of the wealth in England was held by 20% of the population.
But it was recently made much more popular by author Richard Koch.
He realized that the 80/20 principle didn’t just apply to wealth. It applied to everything. His approach is all about “less is more.”
To illustrate my point, let’s take working out for an example. If you want to see faster results with less time at the gym, you want to do more compound movements. Squats, bench press and deadlifts hit multiple muscles in one move.
By focusing more on the “big 3,” you can see noticeable changes in your body quicker than doing cardio and isolation movements combined.
With any relationships, you want to create trust, comfort and connection as quickly as possible. I know socializing may not seem similar to working out but the principles are the same.
Each of one has “big wins.”
The 20% that will give you 80% of the results.
You might be wondering what does this have to to do with your social confidence?
I’m glad you asked. Let me explain.
Mutual interests is the foundation of a great relationship.
This is true whether it’s personal, romantic or professional. The more things you have in common, the easier it is to spend time together.
What better way to do that than to make your social life an extension of your hobbies and interests?
What I’m going to suggest is a bit counter-intuitive but hear me out.
Considering there are 3 factors that make up 80% of your social success, it’s easy to pick your “big wins.”
To succeed in any field (whether it’s working out or improving your social confidence), you need to focus on the “big wins.”
So what are these big wins?
- Your mindset
- Your appearance
- Your passion
Those 3 factors account for 80% of your ability to consistently attract the right type of relationships in your life.
The biggest problem is that if you ignore this 80% it really doesn’t matter what you say or what you do.
I’ll say it again…if you don’t address them, your social success will be limited IF you have any at all.
There’s no way around it.
So how can you use this information?
Simple. Set up an action plan. Learn how to control these factors.
The best way to improve your mindset is through meditation and visualization. The more you know what you want, the more likely you are to get it.
You become what you think about the most.
Also, people make judgements about your right away.
You never get a second chance to give a great first impression so make sure you put in more effort in how you present yourself.
Taking care of your appearance is one of the smallest things you can do that will yield to exponential results when it comes to social confidence.
Lastly, you owe it to yourself to find what you’re passionate about. There’s not a better feeling than doing something that you really care about.
The more things you have going for you, the more value you posses as a person.
Get clear on what you want, do more of what you love and meet like-minded people along the way.
It’s really that simple.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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