Wanna know a secret?
Because my dad had to work abroad, I spent a lot of time with my mother when I was growing up.
We talked about anything and everything, including the girls that I liked back then.
Because I love her and respect her, I believed everything she said, especially with dating.
“Be nice, sweet and respectful to women and they will eventually fall in love with you.”
Mother knows best right? So, that’s exactly what I did.
I became the “nice guy.”
With high hopes, I bought the woman that I liked cards, flowers and chocolates.
I figured at some point, she’s going to realize how much of a “nice guy” I was and eventually would want to be my girlfriend.
So I waited, and waited, and waited…
But it never worked.
Whenever I’d try and ask a girl that I like, she’d say “I’m not looking for a relationship,” which is fair.
Then a week after, I’d see her holding hands with another guy.
I guess “I’m not looking for a relationship” meant “I am, but not with you.”
Can you relate to this?
Why do nice guys always have to finish last?
Now, you don’t need to be an arrogant prick to get girls.
The only reason why women like assholes is because they’re just more decisive than you are. They ask for what they want.
Can you still be a nice guy and attract women?
My answer is “yes,” but here’s the thing…
You have to know the difference between a “nice guy” and a “push over.”
A nice guy is still nice, sweet and respectful to women. In addition, he also has boundaries. He knows what he will and will not tolerate.
He doesn’t take shit from other people.
A push over is still nice, sweet and respectful to women. The problem is he allows women to step all over him and he doesn’t do anything about it.
He doesn’t know how to stand up for himself.
That’s when I realized that I was not a “nice guy;” I was a “pushover.”
If this speaks to you, this is what you do:
If you have no idea what you’re looking for in a relationship, figure that out first.
And then, define your boundaries and stick to it.
You have to be okay to walk away from any woman who makes you compromise what matters to you.
Once you’re clear about what you want, don’t be afraid to express it.
Have your own opinion on things. Don’t just say “me too” and agree with everything a woman says especially if it’s not true.
Say what’s on your mind. The more you respect yourself, the more women will respect you too.
Most importantly, make sure you have a life outside of just meeting women.
Focus on improving the quality of your life and becoming the best version of yourself.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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