You know what feels awful?
Building up the courage to walk up to someone you want to talk to and then getting rejected.
It’s hard not to take it personally.
Rejection really hurts because it triggers the same part of your brain when you experience physical pain.
That’s why it feels like you got stabbed by a sharp knife and someone’s twisting it.
But here’s the thing, rejection is not about you. As a matter of fact, it’s selfish to think that way.
Whatever looks like a people’s problem is usually a situation problem. You have no idea what people are going through when you interact with them.
Maybe their boss yelled at them at work. Maybe they’re having relationship issues. Or maybe they’re just having a bad day.
That’s why you can’t take it personally.
Eliminating your fear of approaching people comes down to giving a different interpretation to your situation. If you want to change how you feel, change the meaning you give to what’s happening.
Reframe the negative stories you tell yourself into something more positive. Rather than focusing on the worst-case scenario, why not think of the best thing that can happen?
Both are possible. It’s your head anyway, you can believe anything you want. You might as well fill it with empowering thoughts.
I know for me, I would rather take the risk and go for what I want than live a life of regrets always thinking what could’ve happen.
Besides, what’s the worst thing that can happen when you approach someone?
3 Types Of People You’ll Meet
- People who are not interested to meet you because they’re in a rush or they’re in a bad mood
- People are indifferent about meeting you and the conversation can go either way
- People who are interested to meet you and they’re open to hear what you have to say
What does this mean for you?
The reason why getting rejected is actually a good thing is because it saves you from wasting time with the wrong people. And you can’t make more time.
Your job is to filter out those who are not interested in you and move on.
Give yourself the opportunity to meet people who will like you for who you are.
The best thing you can do when you get rejected is to recognize it, accept it,and keep going anyway.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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