No big surprise.
One of the biggest concerns that most shy guys that I’ve worked with is how to behave around women.
They want to know how to confidently approach someone they like, get them interested in them, and move things on a more romantic level.
But they have NO IDEA how.
I can’t really blame them. You don’t know what you don’t know until someone shows you.
Trust me, I know EXACTLY how that feels too.
I didn’t know that there’s a BIG DIFFERENCE between the way most men and most women interact when they’re assessing a potential romantic partner.
Let me explain.
Most women are more laid back and relaxed on a date. They really take their time to get to know if someone would be a good partner for them.
Shy guys are much different.
Since they don’t get the chance to interact with a lot of new people, every woman they meet becomes a candidate for a girlfriend or a wife.
Coming from a place of desperation creates a lot of tension when meeting women.
It puts a lot unnecessary pressure and you end up trying too hard which eventually backfires.
If you treat every woman you meet like she’s “the one,” you’re not going to get very far in all your interactions.
Now that you know why most shy guys screw up with women, what do you do instead?
I want to share with you a few helpful techniques that’s helped me out.
It’s hard to show your personality if you feel like you’re walking on egg shells.
When you’re just starting out, just set the goal to connect with women as friends.
That way, you can learn how to have a normal conversation with the opposite sex while enjoying yourself.
When you couldn’t care less about how it turns out, that’s when you’re able to really be yourself.
Be More Selective
If you think about it, you’ll be spending a lot of time with whoever you end up dating.
That’s why you really have to define exactly what you’re looking for or else you’ll end up with someone who’s not a good fit for you.
Once you understand this, rejection becomes a good thing.
Remember, the more time you spend with the wrong woman, the less time you have to find the right one.
Desperation comes from lack of options.
In dating, it’s easy to feel this way if you don’t meet a lot of people in general.
Make sure you take the time to regularly go out and expand your social circle.
The better you are at socializing with people in general, the more comfortable you will feel when interacting with women.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning this as much as I’ve enjoyed writing this for you.
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