Taking the time to learn to be funny is one of the best things you can ever do.
When you know how to make people laugh, you’ll win them over very quickly.
Today, I want to share with you the exact same process that I’ve used to improve my sense of humor without being annoying or offensive.
What You'll Learn In This Post
1. Be A Student
What better way to learn to be funny than from those who do it professionally.
As the saying goes, success leaves clues and all you have to do is follow them.
You don’t need to reinvent the wheel.
That’s why I recommend you spend some time watching more comedy shows.
When you do, observe what kind of humor makes you laugh and ask yourself why you found something funny.
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Make sure you notice little nuances by paying attention to the timing and delivery of the joke.
And then, do your best to integrate what you learned during your next interaction.
It’s also worth mentioning that some people are just naturally funny.
That being said, if you have friends who have a great sense of humor, try to be around them as much as you can.
Remember, you can’t help but be influenced by those whom you spend time with frequently.
Over time, you’ll mimic the way they think and how they do things.
Eventually, their sense of humor will rub off on you and you’ll become a funnier person as well.
2. Stop Doubting Yourself
In our social skills coaching program, we work with a lot of engineers, programmers, and developers.
Because they lack awareness and experience socializing, most of them have had a lot of awkward interactions in the past.
As a result, they’re full of self-doubt and feel inadequate when they communicate with others.
To avoid more embarrassing experiences, they tend to play it safe in social situations.
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The thing is, if you want to learn to be funny, you have to be courageous.
You have to be willing to say and do things that may break social norms.
The key here is to stop caring so much and let go of any attachment to the outcome.
Just view this whole process like you’re learning to play an instrument or a new sport.
That way, you’ll keep an open mind and be a lot more willing to make mistakes.
The irony is, the less you care, the funnier you’ll come across.
When you’re just starting out, not all your jokes are going to get a laugh.
When that happens, don’t make a big deal about it.
Have some self-compassion, brush it off and move on.
Keep practicing and you’ll figure out how to not take things personally.
Again, the more risk you’re willing to take, the faster you’ll improve your sense of humor.
3. Appreciate Wordplay
From what I’ve noticed, people find it amusing when there’s a gap between the words that are used and the meaning behind them.
That’s why using puns is an easy way to get a laugh.
The key here is to be observant, imaginative, and have an extensive vocabulary.
For this to work, make an effort to read more and learn about different topics.
The next time you look at something that you see often, ask yourself what else it reminds you of.
By doing this, you’ll be able to come up with different ways of describing usual things.
Again, educate yourself consistently and use your imagination often.
The more you do, the more you train your brain to be creative and spontaneous.
4. Respond In A Surprising Way
If you want to learn to be funny, misdirection is another good way to do it.
An easy way to implement this is to do the opposite of what people are expecting.
For example, you can say yes when you meant no and vice versa.
You can also tell a story and flip the ending to be something completely different.
The further the punch line is from what people expect, the funnier it becomes.
The key here is to prepare your stories ahead of time.
Doing this will help you improve your sense of humor, especially if you’re not a talkative person in general.
You’ll be able to come up with something fun and surprising to say the next time you interact with someone.
Again, the more you prepare the more quick-witted you’ll become.
5. Exaggerate Something
Exaggerating something is awesome because almost everyone gets it.
Implementing this during your interaction is very simple as well.
You just need to pick a subject and blow it out of proportion.
The more absurd the comparison, the funnier it is.
That being said, make sure you cater your jokes to the person you’re chatting with.
To prevent yourself from being offensive, avoid touchy subjects like religion, sex, politics, and race.
Also, stay away from any references that could potentially gross people out.
To pull this off, you need to have a good understanding of the topic you’re discussing and have situational awareness as well.
6. Play A Role
If you want to learn to be funny, role-playing is another great way to do it.
To make this work, you pretend to be a specific character.
And then you play that role as realistically as you can.
I noticed that professional comedians do this a lot especially when they’re telling a story about something that happened to them.
The key here is to commit to your character.
To play your role convincingly, you need to adjust your mindset, body language, and tonality.
The more believable you are, the funnier you’ll come across.
This definitely requires a bit of practice so try to integrate this type of humor in more low-risk settings.
I recommend you start with people that you’re familiar with like your family and friends.
They’ll be a lot more forgiving if you do come across as a bit awkward compared to someone who doesn’t know you well.
7. Tell A Personal Story
When something makes us laugh, it’s typically something we can all relate to.
If you want to learn to be funny, open up and share personal details about yourself.
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For me, some of the most embarrassing times in my life are now part of my most entertaining material.
When you’re able to make fun of yourself, it shows others that you don’t take yourself too seriously.
As a result, you’ll come across as more authentic and relatable.
On that note, make sure you don’t overshare because that could weird people out real fast.
You’ll want to protect your reputation and only reveal personal information to someone that you trust.
That being said, make sure you start small, gauge someone’s reaction, and then go from there.
8. Reference Something You Said Before
Call back humor is one of my favorite ways to make others laugh.
I tend to do this a lot with people that I’ve known for a while like my close friends and my girlfriend.
Since we have a lot of shared experiences, it’s easy to make references to previous events and conversations that we’ve had.
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If you want, you can still make this type of humor work with someone that you just met.
All you have to do is to mention something you said before that got a laugh.
Remember, it’s hard to be clever when you ruminate a lot.
That’s why you need to get out of your head and be present.
By doing so, you’ll be able to recall relevant information a lot quicker.
9. Capture Good Ideas
Have you ever had an inspired thought while taking a shower or going for a walk?
If so, don’t let those good ideas go to waste.
I recommend you capture new insights that you come up with randomly.
This is especially a good thing to do if you don’t consider yourself a naturally clever person.
Having ideas written down will give you lots of material to work with when you create your routines.
To help you apply this in your day-to-day life, just think of situations that you normally find yourself in.
And then, imagine interesting ways to incorporate your inspired thoughts when you tell your stories.
Again, the more prepared you are, the more confident you’ll be when you interact with people.
10. Be More Present
As a social skills coach, I’ve worked with a lot of shy introverts in the past.
From what I’ve seen, people who struggle to make jokes tend to analyze things way too much.
They’re always stuck in their heads overthinking what to say that they come across really tense.
Like I said earlier, you need to be in the moment if you want to learn to be funny.
Once you’ve taken the time to prepare your routines, you just have to let things go after that.
The next time you interact with someone, loosen up, remain calm, and be a good listener.
Give whoever you’re with your full and undivided attention.
Most importantly, trust yourself that you’ll be able to come up with something clever to say when it really counts.
11. Keep Educating Yourself
As mentioned before, the element of surprise is a big component when learning how to be funnier and more outgoing.
If you’re wondering how to make people laugh, you have to be able to make correlations between subjects that are seemingly unrelated.
The thing is, you can find humor in almost any situation.
It’s all about how you tie things together and your delivery as well.
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Like I said earlier, you have to consistently acquire new knowledge if you want to figure out how to be witty.
You can’t just do the same things over and over again.
If your typical week consists of going to work, going home, and playing video games, that’s just not going to cut it.
Remember, in order for you to become more creative, you need unique ideas.
The more novel information you expose yourself to, the more you’ll expand your perspective.
My advice is for you to learn something new on a regular basis.
Make an effort to always try something that you’ve never done before.
Over time, you’ll gain more life experiences which will help you make interesting references.
12. Calibrate Your Jokes
If you want to learn to be funny, you have to be empathetic.
Before you tell your story or make a comment, put yourself in other people’s situations.
Ask yourself if you would enjoy it if you were on the receiving end of the joke.
Things can get awkward real fast if you don’t adjust your style of humor.
Keep in mind that some jokes are more appropriate than others.
That’s why you should always read the crowd before you say something.
For example, the same story will have to be delivered differently if you’re with your friends compared to your relatives.
Remember, there are certain topics that appeal to different individuals.
When in doubt and you’re around people you don’t know, be observant first.
Pay close attention to what they’re talking about.
The better you know your audience, the easier it’ll be for you to come up with something that they’ll find amusing.
Conclusion
If you want to learn to be funny, I just shared with you my best tips.
Feel free to go through them again and implement them as much as you can.
And now, let’s turn it to you.
Which one of these tips are you going to implement first?
Are you going to work on responding in a surprising way or on exaggerating something?
Send me a message on Instagram and let me know.